Guest Post: Compass-Guided Ghanaian Social Startup Wins Award

We’re delighted to share that food security startup Soyko Agro Food has won an innovation cash prize for their Compass-guided work.

They share more in this letter to their CorpsAfrica mentor Garrett Mason that founder Jerone Agyapong has kindly allowed me to share, and on their LinkedIn page.  

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Dear Garrett,

My team, Soyko Agro Foods, has just won the Kosmos Innovation Center Agrictech Classic Challenge! We're a small startup, and this win is a huge milestone for us. We took home a prize of $2000 USD, which will go a long way in helping us grow our business.

Our team produces a unique flour formula using locally grown tubers, nuts, and legumes. I'm thrilled to say that our success is in large part due to the tools and methodologies you taught us, particularly the Innovator's Compass and ABCD. Your guidance and mentorship have been invaluable to me. Myself and team are grateful for the impact you've had on our journey.

To answer your question, here's how we used the Innovators' Compass and ABCD…

We started by identifying the problem using the Innovators' Compass:

1.⁠ ⁠Who: We looked into the lives of people in the central region of Ghana, particularly those affected by malnutrition.

2.⁠ ⁠What: We observed that malnutrition was a common problem, not just in rural areas but also in urban centers.

3.⁠ ⁠Why: We discovered that the root causes were high cost of nutritious food options and limited availability of nutritious foods compared to processed foods.

4.⁠ ⁠What matters: We asked ourselves what mattered most to our target persona and realized they wanted nutritious, tasty, and affordable food options that were multipurpose.

5.⁠ ⁠What ways: We generated many ideas, narrowed down to three: a flour, a plant-based yogurt, and a plant-based drink.

To refine our ideas and pick one, we used the ABCD approach: We considered the assets and strengths of our community, including:

•⁠  ⁠What food crops were readily available in the south and how these crops stood out in terms of nutrition.

•⁠  ⁠How to get the crops at what season and cost.

•⁠  ⁠How much impact the product would have on the smallholder farmer and the average consumer.

From there, we asked the people what they really wanted and how they wanted it. We then started experimentations, taking feedback until we arrived at our end product.

Thank you again for your support and guidance. We're excited to see where this win takes us, and we look forward to staying in touch.

This story was originally published in the Spring 2025 Innovators’ Compass newsletter.

Guest Post: The City of Somerville’s Compass-Fueled Collaborative Turning Point

The banner at “https://voice.somervillema.gov/cultural-capacity-plan”

Daniel Koff, adjunct professor at Olin College and founder of Solomon Office, shared this story about the Compass' impact on a city’s collaborative rebirth—a powerful why for this work. In Daniel’s words…
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I'm galvanized that I got to play a key role in realizing a turning point for the city of Somerville, Massachusetts: its first-ever cultural plan—co-created with city residents, Forecast Public Art, and Mallory Rukhsana Nezam, and leveraging the long history of this work by the Somerville Arts Council.

The Somerville Cultural Capacity Plan engages the local arts and culture community to explore ways to strengthen and improve access to Somerville’s cultural assets. 

It was grounded in community conversations around the Innovators’ Compass questions: what’s happening in the arts and culture community and why, principles to guide development, ideas to preserve and grow opportunities, and experiments to try right away. 

Local Ambassadors, identified by a citywide survey, worked with Ela to create a discussion guide, then hosted thirty community affinity groups, totaling 195 participants: arts groups (media, visual, performing, etc.) and other residents (newcomers, elders, parents, etc.) for the initial conversations. 

Community conversations in art studios

The City held a “Citywide Forum”, an open house sharing the 150 resulting easel Compass pages, typed Ambassadors’ notes (via QR codes), and synthesized themes with the entire Somerville community for further input. The Ambassadors continued to collaborate on the Plan’s development. 

Dan Koff giving a community update and inviting collaboration

Two of the Ambassadors displaying their community conversations around the Citywide Forum

A community member looks at the overarching themes

Already the Plan is having an impact. In one of the first in-person hearings Somerville hosted since the pandemic, over 135 people signed up to testify about changes to zoning for Arts and Creative Enterprise uses. The vast majority were in favor -- as long as the City makes those changes after a Community Benefits Agreement is signed with a major developer. This Hearing, plus additional upcoming convenings hosted by an Ambassador who was first engaged through the planning process, show how the Compass has helped to galvanize a community around making structural changes to their city that will incentivize the preservation and growth of the arts and culture sector. 

As Mayor Katjana Ballantyne shared at the citywide forum, “The success of the plan lies in our collaboration and co-creation. It lies in our ability to be inclusive more than we have ever been before in our outreach and engagement to ensure that all voices are represented in the plan…Participants have come up with some bold and transformational ideas. That kind of expansive thinking will better enable government and residents to work together to maximize our resources for the Community.”

Beyond the Plan, one Ambassador continued to use her platform to communicate with and convene musicians, pointing to the opportunity to continue enabling Ambassadors’ ongoing work supporting their respective slices of the Somerville community.

This story was originally published in the Spring 2025 Innovators’ Compass Newsletter.

Guest Post: A Powerful Community Case Study from CorpsAfrica Kenya

With gratitude to Corps Africa, I am republishing this story here in the Innovators’ Compass blog. Find a PDF of this wonderful case study here.

This story was originally published in the Summer 2024 Innovators’ Compass Newsletter.

Guest Post: "Innovators' Compass: My Swiss Army Knife of Choice"

(Compassing changing roles at work and home)

By Ginger Rowher

Ginger Rowher Compass-navigated a newly created education+business leadership role in a statewide STEM network. Along the way, she improved programs with educational staff, coached an executive…and saved Christmas with her family. In her words…

Human-centered design is a process designed to foster innovation and creativity, and the Innovators' Compass is my tool-of-choice when applying this approach to challenges in my professional and personal life.  I was introduced to design thinking in 2018 at a workshop at Grand Valley State University. I had just started working for a statewide STEM network after 21 years of teaching mathematics, and I didn't realize at the time how valuable human-centered design would be in this newly-created role.  

The STEM network had been recently formed and consisted of sixteen regions across the state.  No one had done the job before, and one of the focus areas was integrating education and business - something that I didn't have experience with.  While some skills from my former role of teaching undergraduate mathematics translated to this new position, much of the work was new to me.  The iterative cycles of the design thinking process became an invaluable process for navigating my way through figuring out effective ways to do the work.

A few months later, GVSU invited Ela to lead a series of presentations on the Innovators’ Compass and how it supports creative problem solving.  I invited my son, Isaac, who was a freshman in his first semester at GVSU.  He graciously agreed to attend, and during the session, we were asked to identify a situation where we felt stuck.  Isaac and I chatted for a few minutes, and because it was the end of November, the topic of how our family celebrates Advent came up.  Our family had developed traditions for celebrating Advent that began when our kids were toddlers, and now all of them were adults.  I had been holding on to the traditions despite multiple protests, and we were stuck.  We brought the challenge to the rest of the family and used the Innovators' Compass to find a new way forward.  Now our family spends time preparing our favorite meals together, with my kids taking the lead.

The Innovators' Compass has been a tool for way-finding in multiple contexts over the last six years.  The staff I work with at the Regional Math and Science Center at GVSU has used the Compass for improving multiple projects, including this STEM summer program, and I have used the Compass to facilitate an improvement cycle for the Michigan Girls Future Flight Challenge, hosted by the Women of Aerospace Industry Association of Michigan (WAIAM).

A few years ago, the Executive Director of a statewide organization that our Network works with asked me if I would be willing to meet with her in a consulting role.  She had noticed a particular organizational tool that I had been using in our interactions and wanted me to teach her how to use it.  I suggested that we use the Innovators' Compass instead, with the challenge being, "How might I get more organized and efficient at work?"  While my organizational system worked well for me, I wasn't sure that it would be the best solution for her, and I knew that the Innovators' Compass would reveal possible solutions that centered her priorities

This story was originally published in the Winter 2024 Innovators’ Compass Newsletter.

Drawing Pictures to Discover Principles

"A picture is worth a thousand words.”

That’s not just a popular saying, it’s a tremendously powerful practice in anything you do—whether you’re fully seeing the people involved, detailing your observations of what’s happening, sensing and symbolizing what matters most, exploring ideas for ways forward, or creating an impactful first experiment.

But I’d love to spotlight one of those here: using pictures as we explore principles—what matters most.

We see this all the time in motivational posters—the artist uses an image to convey the principle and help it inspire us in a lasting way.

Personal principles in pictures

Exploring personal principles through pictures began for me long ago, when I was overwhelmed as I led a stressful global project for IDEO.

The mental soup of all of my best-and-worst moments that I’d observed suddenly simplified into a pair of simple sketches:

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My takeaway: to focus more on the people involved, and less on the "stuff." This principle, with its picture, has remained powerful for me since, no matter what the stressful situation or stuff involved might be.

Much later, as I began doing daily compasses, a few other pictorial principles arose, such as:

A heart with ears—for unconditional love and listening with people in my family, work, and community.

A little starburst, for focusing on a few simple things—in my life, in a workshop, whatever—and letting them shine powerfully.

A peace sign with little clock marks around it—for dividing my time intentionally and being at peace with what happens.

A body that radiates—for self care.

Clearly these don’t have to be “picture-perfect” sketches! Even seeing these chickenscratch sketches on my desk daily helps me reset what matters most at any moment much more quickly and vividly than words.

Pictures tap into more of our human “processing power” to see what matters most amidst complexity

Our 10+ Human tools

What’s more, drawing and seeing pictures also engages our head, heart, gut, eyes, and hands—more of our 10+ human tools—in ways that words do not. Mustering more of our processing power is critical when we’re making sense of complex information and situations.

That’s the reason drawing pictures to find what matters most, or points of leverage, is a focus of Systems Thinking, which understands complex human or natural systems so that we can make things better.

Credit: this great Medium Article by Leyla Acaroglu

In many fields, including design, drawing pictures to identify what matters most is known as frameworking. This proved to be my personal superpower at IDEO, and I teach it to my design students. Innovators’ Compass, Our 10+ Human Tools, and Playing With Punctuation are three simple yet powerful frameworks that I created and are the foundation for the practices of innovatorscompass.org.

Another of my favorites, however, is a visual framework that one of my own mentors, Kate Schreiber, created for a project about what mattered most to 16-24 year olds we met around the world about health and nutrition (essentially nothing—until something that does matter to them is at stake!):

Many more examples I love of showing what matters most with pictures can be found in the books below (and the latter author’s amazing daily pictoral blog).

And the TEDx talk Draw Your Future focuses on visualizing principles that matter most about your dream future.

Your examples of Compassing principles with pictures

Many of you draw what matters most as you Compass in any situation—here are a few you’ve shared.

Karmelann Egan’s Ottawa kindergarten students exploring principles of kindness with their peers:

And below, participants in an Innovators for Purpose workshop used stickers provided by the MIT Museum to help explore and express princples for rethinking who designs AI:

Finally, my own students in a “pandemic edition” of my life design class, pulled in pictures they found online as they explored principles about their immediate and long-term life.

Whatever you’re planning, unsticking, or reflecting on, I hope you’ll play with pictures in any way to explore and express what matters most—your guiding prinicples for that situation.

A Popular Place to Practice Resolving Conflicts—The playground.

The fact that so many Innovators’ Compasses have been created about conflicts on school playgrounds might seem trivial. 

But, short-term, there’s a tremendous impact on kids’ social-emotional well-being and ability to thrive in school. And, on teachers’ sanity!

And starting to hone our compass for conflict resolution early in life can go a long way in our grown-up conflicts, too. 

Here are a few ways I’ve seen these playground and other conflict-resolution Compasses play out in different media, from young kids to older ones:

Talking prompts at a preschool peace table

At this preschool (unfortunately no longer open), children brought conflicts to a “peace table”. Among the simple prompts to help them talk were individual cutouts of the Compass shapes and feelings emoji on the Compass website.

When teachers use these in class as well—like holding one up and asking “Who has an observation/idea/experiment?”—kids are ready to use these powerful tools in their talking toolbox when it’s time for them to do some DIY peacemaking.

Pre-emptively practicing with picture-based Compasses

An Ottawa, Ontario teacher Karmelann Egan shared how her kindergarten class Compasses to find kind ways through problems and conflicts. In this example she shared, the kids talked and drew through how to help a puppet friend Suzy who was frustrated because her tower of blocks keep falling down.

Karmelann drew attention to the empathy coming through on the faces, and how supporting each other and working together clearly come through in what matters and in their ideas. She said they use a show of thumbs for which idea they want to try first, knowing they can go back and try another idea. I can’t help but notice that ice cream is also a solution—hey, it works for my kids, too!

Adult-facilitated conversations

I see a lot of conversations where a teacher or administrator is facilitating as a group of students tackles a playground challenge. Principal Dawn McWilliams in Aurora, CO offered a this 40-second narration of one such playground Compass, shown at left, on the very last week of school. You can see that the students were able to take some lovely high-level perspective about what mattered most—at least for the rest of that year! Her then assistant-principal, Mitch Davison, is leading the conversation on the right; while he’s writing, the students’ bodies show they’re fully engaged.

Student-created compasses

I treasure the stream of Compassing photos Meghan Ewaynk’s fifth-grade classroom in Syracuse, NY, has posted as they “problem solve and take ownership of their classroom & school community” and “improve classroom culture.” These have included difficulties at recess and in the cafeteria.

A silent Compass?!?

Finally, I do think this story, emailed by principal Dawn McWilliams in Aurora, CO, might take the cake: students Compassing silently!

I had to share this story!

I went into this situation completely blind. I was brought two fifth-grade girls who had some sort of problem on the playground yesterday. Neither one of them would talk to me. I could barely get head nods from them to indicate any information. I knew that they both had problems with someone who was being mean to them, but neither would say who the student was that was being mean.

The IC is a perfect non-verbal tool! I had them list on sticky notes what was happening with this other person, keeping both themselves and the other person in mind. They put up their sticky notes, but neither spoke. I supported them in grouping the notes somewhat. Then we went to priorities (principles) and next to ideas. When I asked them how they would implement their ideas, they said maybe at lunch. I asked how they would get this other girl involved in the conversation since they hadn’t written any ideas up for how to draw the other girl into the conversation. They exchanged a look, and I realized that the girl they were each having issues with was each other. At that point, I asked if they wanted to have some time to talk together now so that they could follow through on their ideas. They both agreed. Three minutes later, they came to me with smiles. Problem solved!

Once again, the Innovators’ Compass saved the day!

Follow your Compass! Do whatever works!

Now, I’m no stranger to this playground phenomenon. Early on, when I was experimenting and observing rabidly in every possible setting—from classrooms to corporate conference rooms—I was invited to observe several classrom-conflict sessions with classroom teachers. One was my own daughter’s kindergarten class! And another (which I cowrote a “5 Questions That Get Us Unstuck” kids book with her the next year when she was remote schooling during the pandemic learning to write “all about” books, and also with Tom Vander Ark in Education Week) took place in a different Boston area school.

The teacher invited the students to explore each part of the Compass in a different way—the first time I’d seen that, and I loved how it helped give each its own distinct feel:

• The students wrote sticky notes on their own for What’s happening and why? (Observations): Talking. Playing. They always play tag. People keep telling on people. They xclood[sic] me. People standing on the bottom [sic] of the slide.

• The teacher scribed what they said for What matters most? (Principles): They beautifully illustrated how we have competing principles that define our challenge “fun, running” AND “safe”; “free choice” AND “people listen, being included, agree on our own rules.”

• The students drew pictures on paper for What ways are there? (Ideas): they imagined new games, rules, props and signage.

• And for What’s a step to try? (Experiments), they quickly made their ideas with whatever was handy and headed out for…recess of course! As they played, they again noticed “What’s happening?” and, like the boy below adding pictures to his originally text-only sign on the slide, made changes.

The quiet “xclood"-ed child also used the tool privately to explore his experiences. With his permission, the teacher engaged the class on topics he raised, including the “Why” they’d left unexplored above. It was shared with me that afterward, the student found his own voice in class.

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My tremendous gratitude to all these educators, and everyone who shares Compass stories!

May your playgrounds be peaceful!

The Difference a Decade of the SXSW EDU Conference Has Made

The 2023 Workshop team (with Kim Zajac and Manuel Herrera)

I’ve reached my 10th year of the SXSW EDU conference (including seven as a presenter and one as a mentor)—my heartfelt thanks to many of you who clicked “vote for our session” in our summer newsletters!

The decade milestone inspired me to take stock of SXSW’s impact on this work.  It’s mindblowing.

Here are some ways, which emphasize why People are at the center of Innovators’ Compass and all our ways of making things better and less stuck.

The culture.

SXSW EDU is created, volunteer-staffed, and attended by people passionate about making positive change by unleashing our capacity to learn, grow, and make positive change in the world around us at any age. It was a “bucket filling” experience every single time, no matter how exhausted I went in or came out.

The experiments.

I quickly came to use SXSW as a yearly milestone in this work: 

• A tool for any challenge I can unleash not teach (the Compass, till 2018). 

• The simplest addition to make the results much more powerful (exploring with more punctuation marks, 2019). 

• Ways to ensure people explore “with and for” everyone involved in positive and not harmful ways (2020-21). 

• Tapping into more of our human tools (2022-2023). 

• Developing the most immediately powerful physical tools and way to introduce them (2024-25). 

I’d develop and test the tools in all my workshops leading to SXSW EDU, where they got further testing in sessions, spontaneous conversations, and especially in the 3-day “playground” interactive space I was generously granted in 2018-19.

The 2019 Playground team with Hillary Golthwait-Fowles, Dylan Ferniany, and Dave Coffey

Topics that were “Unstuck @SXSW EDU.” And yes, even Texas Longhorns need a breakthrough (or at least a break) to get unstuck sometimes!

The collaborations.

Each year I had the privilege of drawing in new collaboration partners. Most I’d never worked with, or in some cases even met in person, but I was inspired by them and their work and how they could stretch me and my work.

Among them have been Jessica Huang; Kaleb Rashad, Eric Chagala, Dawn McWilliams, Dan Coleman, Mitch Davison, Valeria Rodriquez, Dave Coffey, Manjula Karemcheti, Kim Zajac, Manuel Herrera, Jess Bacal, Kaylah Holland, Michael Hernandez, Hillary Goldthwait-Fowles, Dylan Ferniany, and Denise Kern.

The infusions.

I’ve been as passionate a consumer of SXSW EDU content as a creator of it. I can’t begin to list the impactful talks (I’ll just share this year’s closing keynote), panels, workshops, interactive spaces (like the d.school’s), meetups, evening events (notably, Leadership Journeys), and more I’ve attended.

This year I loved the addition of more intimate BrainDates—and discovered SXSW’s sensory/reflection room at just the moment I was compelled to create the most powerful single piece of paper I could (pg. 3 of this) and sought a space ripe for sketching it.

And every conversation I’ve had has been an inspiration—from Paula Intravia’s insights about purposeful daydreaming, to Louka Parry’s heart-and-head-provoking questions or Paris Gamble’s passion about meeting kids with money conversations to get them going.

And above all, the unfolding connections to people who contributed profoundly to this work. 

The ripple effects of random SXSW encounters are where this gets really mind-blowing. 

I must begin with infinite gratitude to Sean Hewens, a colleague at IDEO who drew me into my first SXSW—a panel at “the big one,” SXSW Interactive, which led me to discover SXSW EDU.

The K-12 Design Thinking Crowd Connections
At my first SXSW EDU, I had the luck to see someone I knew there—Sam Seidel—right at registration.  He introduced me to the K-12 design thinking crowd, who would go on to name the Compass and start the hashtag (Kevin Day, Dan Ryder), and through the #dtk12chat weekly Twitter chat, expose so many more educators whose experiments fueled this work (just a few: Kim Zajac, Mary Marotta, Melissa Foley-Procko, Taryn Grigas Lang, Megan Ewanyk, Rosita Darden, Erin Quinn, Jacquie Gardy, Matt Drewette-Card…).

I then saw another friend, Jessica Huang from the MIT dLab, on an escalator. In the moment she had while passing me going up as I went down, she had enough time to say “Ela! You’re here! Do you want to present with me?”. She had the grace to pull me and my messy early thinking into her session, and inspire me to propose a session the following year.

The 4.0 Schools Connections
Some time beforehand, I was introduced to the wonderful Gabrielle Santa Donato by our mutual friend Tony Wagner; Gabrielle would text-connect me to the team of 4.0 schools, an incredible accelerator and community of “edupreneurs” at my first SXSW. As I shared the nascent Compass with David Fu on a warm balcony of the convention center, he pulled out his phone and began to record—he believed in it, in me, and pulled me into the 4.0 fold.  The 4.0 Essentials program, Hassan Hassan, and the rest of the team who led it were a great kickstart to take this more seriously. 

Kathleen McKissack said, “This needs a website.” Then she walked her talk and built it (in Squarespace, thankfully, so I was able to easily continue and fill it with content!). 

Tim Hall said, “You need this thing called a folding business card.” Voila, the pocket compass was born! 

And Garrett Mason said, “This could change the world.” The fuel those words offered in the long nights of this work is incredible on its own. But I didn’t know then that Garrett would take it across continents—Kosovo; China and Indonesia; and countries throughout Africa as a core tool to unleash local CorpsAfrica volunteers and changemakers.

Garrett also led to my meeting Valeria Rodriquez, a passionate educator and thought partner who contributed the Spanish sketchnoted version, foldable cubes, and much more.

The Universal Design For Learning & Juvenile Justice Connections
At my second SXSW EDU, I met Audrey O’Clair in a “meetup” session. She took one of those original “Pocket Compass” cards and a copy of the Compass chapter in Taking Design Thinking To School, put them in her purse…and pulled the card out on the day after SXSW to guide a meeting of Special Education teachers.

She would go on to be a force in the design of icompass.me, create the facilitation approach I’ve come to call “Sticky then Speak; read, add, repeat,” bring this work with her to Soundtrap and Spotify, and connect this work to the wonderful world of universal design for learning (Hillary Goldthwait Fowles, Lori Cooney), the incredible people and juvenile justice work of BreakFree Education (Kat Crawford, Kaylah Holland), the journalism work of Michael Hernandez, and many more.

More supporters
I’ve met wonderful supporters along the way, like Getting Smart (Tom Vander Ark and team), Big Picture Learning (Andrew Frishman, Carlos Moreno and team), Kwaku Aning, and many more.

Closet Compass Innovators
And I’m still discovering people impacted by this work at SXSW EDU. The number of people who came to me this year and said, “I stopped by your booth in 2018/2019 and took one of those cards” or “I was in your workshop way back in 2017” and that they still use it in their school/org—or pulled out their Pocket Compass—is incredible and so inspiring! It’s why I sport the colorful Compass T-shirt—so people can spot me and share their stories. 

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I’ll end with a round of gratitude for the people of SXSW. The staff over the years (like Kat Stidham, who supported Playground) and got to meet more this year (including Greg Rosenbaum, one of the cofounders). And the armada of wonderful volunteers—I was delighted this year to see and catch up with the IT volunteer who saved Jessica and me in our first session, and another (Anupam Saraph) who was inspired when he supported our workshop room in 2023 and made sure to be in our session.
I’m grateful its incredible 4-day programming is relatively affordable—plus early career discounts and free admission for presenters. And I’m grateful for every acceptance and waitlisting received—the competition is tough. So thanks again to all you voters, too!

In 2025 with a SXSW-IT-volunteer from 2016 who saved Jessica Huang and my session!

Compassing a devastating goodbye

Nurit with a birthday card I gave her a couple years ago: Once in a while, someone very special comes along and makes the world a little more wonderful.

I’ve never shared an extended personal story in my professional newsletter. When I watched my father die less than two years ago, I shared briefly how being in nature and seeing new leaves offered some solace and motivation—it reminded me of the life cycle and our short window in the sun. But having lost my sister so much earlier in her life, it’s been much harder seeing spring rebirth and knowing that she isn’t seeing it, too. I’ve had to lean into these tools we created more than ever. I’ll share just a sliver of that journey here.

Cognitively and physically disabled, Nurit was a shining spirit who loved music, art, and people—with a huge smile and heartfelt “thank you” for everyone, even in her hard final days. She shaped me profoundly and was certainly the first inspiration for this work, along with our parents, who supported us creatively and unconditionally through their early struggles as immigrants. I loved her fiercely. 

Despite tireless efforts from her and all of us, and roller-coaster-highs-and-lows, it became clear we’d need to let go. This felt impossible, even physically. After I’d held her hand for 16 hours, minus a few fast bathroom breaks, a nurse gently reminded me that the dying need us to be ready. Still holding her hand, Compassing with the other, I forced myself to explore what was happening and why—with my heart, gut, and body, and lots of commas and ? marks. Three threads emerged as I explored my pain: 

• Ways that she’s such a powerful part of me, which felt stripped away.
  And then, all the ways she still lives within me, my family, my music-making, and my work. 

• Ways she felt far too young—certainly at heart—and had fought through so many medical challenges before, including a wonderful day of seeming recovery before her final crash.  And the many things I hoped to do or places I hoped to go with her.
  And then the recollection that, after her life-saving surgery as a child—and before the other challenges that arose—she was given 50, maybe 60 years to live (she was 53).

• Mistakes I unconsciously made that may have contributed to her decline.
  And then, those made by others who care so, so incredibly deeply for her and gave her their all.

I realized that what mattered most for me was to explicitly keep her alive in all those ways; to embrace that this may be all the time she was given; and to remember how she was devotedly cared for by so many people who are ultimately human, forgiving myself as easily as I did the others.

The first was satisfyingly tangible—a chance to use my hands and the space and stuff around me. I resolved to put pictures of her in my workspace and our family’s living, music, and art spaces, right along like pictures of shared meals with our parents, and making things together with my Dad. To keep our weekly time to play music “together.” And, since she’d ask for Twinkle, Twinkle each time and was such a spark and light for me, to connect in some way with her each time I see a first star at night. 

My other two needs were less tangible—when pictures are usually my superpower to save the day. This time, no sketch or symbols would come. 

Then, I accidentally opened a video of a song I didn’t remember taking a couple of surreal weeks earlier at a retreat with my favorite band.

I was reminded of why there’s a + on “Our 10+ Human Tools”: music, especially combined with words in song, is a powerful way we capture what matters most in a way that infuses our ears, hearts, bodies, guts. It’s why countries have anthems, cultures pass songs down through generations, and why we have playlists for different moments.

The words of the song suddenly had new meaning and precisely matched what mattered most for me to hear then and often since:

(From Verse 1) I will never be the best I can, except for fleeting moments.
(From Verse 2) I will never see this town from space…but I’ve seen the light of Bogata.
(From Verse 3) I’m surprised I got this far, like a monarch in El Paso. 
(Chorus) If your body’s sore it’s ‘cuz you’ve done something; If the sun is in your eyes, then you’re alive; If your heart is worn it’s ‘cuz you loved someone; and when you die, you lived a life.

Nurit and I playing together in happy times

Songs and stories also offer us helpful observations and ideas. Another, true-story song of theirs reminded me that a final rally before dying is common—and to do what we’d always done together and fire up my fiddle for her one more time.

None of this changed the loss I can feel to my core. But it’s helped me live with it. To slowly be able to hear this, let her go, a little, to live while continuing to love her fiercely—and love on my mom, husband, and kids. We never know how much time we and loved ones have.

These life-celebrating and life-changing songs, Lived a Life, One Last Drink, and Let Me Go, are written by Trevor Lewington, like three that have fueled this work: Shangri La (which I shared last year and becomes more relevant by the day), Broken Line (on repeat through the longest nights of this work, about his grandfather’s letter-writing that changed Canadian law—with a soul-filling bridge), and Letters (which comes on just when I need a little “compass” pick-me-up). Along with songs by fellow members Brian Buchanan and Craig Downie, the band’s repertoire is filled with true stories, and heartfelt awe, of people’s capacity to withstand profound challenges—punctuated by songs with pointed questions about our own choices. I’m so grateful for what this band has poured into their music, which has filled our family’s cups in so many ways. Trevor’s sons are the same ages as our daughters; his younger son is fighting recurring brain tumors. Trevor is encouraging donations for research here in Dale’s honor. 

And we welcome donations in Nurit's memory to VARC (formerly Careers)—whose people and programs filled Nurit's last 30 years with so much love, joy, activity, and meaning. People are what ultimately matter most; Nurit won everyone’s hearts—at VARC, her group home, and at the hospital—and they put their full hearts right back into their care for her. We are endlessly grateful.

Nurit continues to inspire me—this became my first blog post! Only through writing it did I realize that of course a song was the channel for this insight. Songs were Nurit’s clearest language. While she could speak only in short phrases and her paintings were beautiful abstractions, as I described in her tribute, she could sing along to her huge rolodex of songs—kids’ and holiday songs in two different cultures and languages, and popular songs of all eras (especially Elvis). A reminder that to truly involve everyone and their insight, we have to engage through their natural human tools and, in Victor Udoewa’s words, their ways of being and knowing. A bit before she passed, and ever since, I’d started experimenting with putting playlists (with known or new songs for me) on random shuffle while going on a run (how I tap into my own intuition) and found that the songs which arose had surprisingly helpful insight for the moment. That practice will remain another concrete connection with my wonderful sister. A

Thank you, always, Nurit.

Nurit with our mother and my girls a few years ago.